No Cheating!

Help your child resist the temptation to cheat in school.

By FamilyTime


We all want our kids to do well in school, but we don't want them to get there by cheating or taking short cuts. There are lots of ways parents can make sure this does not happen.

Encourage your child's progress and reward her for hard work, effort, and improvement. On the other hand, don't be too hard on a student who does not do well.

The Value of Education

Final grades, test scores, and grade point averages are important, but if you believe education is about far more than the final result, both you and your children will benefit. Talk about the meaning of an education with your kids. 

This means asking them about their classes, what they are learning, and what they are reading. Show an interest in the process - not just their grades.

At the same time, let your children know you won't tolerate cheating or lying.

The most important result in terms of education as taught in school is for the student to master the subject matter sufficiently. This means he or she learns to think, reason, and to have confidence in his or her ability to contribute to society in positive, constructive ways.

Straight A's, achieved by ill-gotten means, don't guarantee any of this!

Signs of Cheating
There are some signs to watch for to determine if your child has been cheating. As hard as it may be to imagine your own child behaving badly, you won't do him any favors if you suspect he's having problems and don't investigate the reasons.

Look for significant improvement in a subject that has long caused difficulty. If your child suddenly does beautifully in history or math and no longer complains about the homework or the subject matter, take a good look at her homework, papers, and other assignments.

If your child suddenly spends far less time doing homework than previously -- without a noticeable slip in grades -- ask him why. Insist on checking the homework and on doing it with him now and then to decide if something is awry.

If you suspect your child might be cheating, talk to her directly about it. Don't buy the "everyone else is doing it" argument. Try to unearth the root causes.

If your child is caught cheating in school, address it immediately with the student and the school. Find out why he felt it necessary to take "the easy way out."

If you get the impression your child feels too much pressure from you and his teachers to succeed and so resorted to cheating, reassess your attitude. Talk to the teachers and let them know your concern.

Keep a close eye on your youngster after the incident, and encourage her academic progress. Praise any improvement; offer to work with her on homework and test preparation; urge her to seek extra help from the teacher; look into hiring a tutor if the work is too hard.

In the end, your child will feel good about himself, and believe that he did the best he could do -- with your unwavering support!