Why Manners Matter

Good manners are not stuffy. They make life easier!

By Joy Schmitt


One of the best things you can do to help your children become confident and successful in life does not involve taking out your checkbook or your car!


You can teach your kids good manners and simple etiquette.


Politeness is often overlooked and undervalued but you will be amazed at the positive results for everyone, from tots to teens, once you make good manners a focus for your family. Both you and the kids will be a little happier, a little more relaxed. 


Etiquette is not fussy, stuffy social rules. It’s simply about treating others with courtesy so that they feel comfortable and at ease. Doing so makes you look – and feel – good.


Good manners are a powerful source of self-confidence and help facilitate life’s relationships in general. A teenager with nice manners is more likely to ace a college or job interview and a well-mannered third grader is more likely to enjoy friendships and be well liked by teachers.


Why Manners Have Gone Missing

Entertainment media today often celebrates rudeness. People shout at each other on television talk shows and music videos. Our modern, fast-lane lives mean we make less time for consideration and niceties.


Also there’s confusion about gender roles and what is polite behavior between the sexes in the 21st century. At times, “doing your own thing” can take precedence over considering the needs of others.


Unfortunately adults often are not good role models for good manners. But good manners are a family affair!


Why Good Manners Are Good for Your Kids.


  • Good manners impress people. Your children will get positive attention and respect. Politeness is a sign of strength not weakness.


  • Good manners build self-esteem. When you respect others you respect yourself and that makes a person more confident.


  • Good manners are attractive. Other parents and adults prefer kids who are polite and so do school teachers.


  • Good manners make others feel good. We all benefit when the people around us are more caring, respectful and compassionate to each other.



Joy Schmitt is an etiquette specialist based in New York City. Her business, “Etiquette Edge” provides coaching on modern etiquette to groups and individuals.